Have a Meaningful Year

Have a Meaningful Year

Happy New Year!  What a wonderful feeling it is to have that “blank slate” approach to life.  So many good intentions.  So much to achieve. So much to hope for.

However…… let’s be realistic. Not to bring the mood down or anything, but how many of your January goals did you achieve last year?  Or the year before? Or the year before that? You get the gist.

In my experience, New Year’s Resolutions only work if they are applied on a broader scale and time frame.  Ironically, it is sometimes easier to change your life than it is to make one year goals.  This is not to say that you can’t do both.  But be gentle with yourself. Rome wasn’t built in a day. But it was built on tremendous knowledge and a team based effort.

Everyone has vastly different personal goals but there are a few common themes that tend to appear among a large percentage of us.  These being, weight loss, getting more fit, earning more, improving relationships or acquiring specific assets.  But the one that stands out for me and one that is extremely difficult to measure, is the pursuit and acquisition of happiness.  Another is having more time.  Time with our family and friends and time on our own to concentrate on the things that make us happy.

One personal  goal I am more than happy to share with you is related to that ever persistent issue of time and how it gets used.  I cannot count how many times last year people referred me to podcasts, books or Ted Talks that they knew I would enjoy and find helpful and my immediate thought was “when I have time”. Guess how many podcasts or Ted Talks I listened to last year? As a total? Zero. Nothing. Embarrassing.

As some of us are still enjoying the holidays relaxing, I thought it might be helpful to compile a list of Ted Talks that can be watched in full or just in snippets. With each and every one of the following I found some stand out knowledge that has already made an indentation on my life.

Now to put them into practice.

I hope you find some of these helpful too.

 

Lisa Feldman Barrett –  You aren’t at the Mercy of Your Emotions – Your Brain Creates Them

https://www.ted.com/talks/lisa_feldman_barrett_you_aren_t_at_the_mercy_of_your_emotions_your_brain_creates_them

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Can you look at someone’s face and know what they’re feeling? Does everyone experience happiness, sadness or anxiety the same way? What are emotions anyway? For the …

Casey Brown – Know Your Worth and Then Ask For Ithttps://www.ted.com/talks/casey_brown_know_your_worth_and_then_ask_for_it

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Your boss probably isn’t paying you what you’re worth — instead, they’re paying you what they think you’re worth. Take the time to learn how to shape their thinking …

Nancy Etcoff – Happiness and its Surprises

https://www.ted.com/talks/nancy_etcoff_on_happiness_and_why_we_want_it

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Cognitive researcher Nancy Etcoff looks at happiness — the ways we try to achieve and increase it, the way it’s untethered to our real circumstances, and its …
Dan Gilbert – The Surprising Science of Happiness

https://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy

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Dan Gilbert, author of “Stumbling on Happiness,” challenges the idea that we’ll be miserable if we don’t get what we want. Our “psychological immune system” lets us …

https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness

Robert Waldinger – Importance of Relationships to Happiness.  “What Makes a Good Life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness”

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What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it’s fame and money, you’re not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you’re …

Dean Ornish “Healing Through Diet”

https://www.ted.com/talks/dean_ornish_on_healing

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Dean Ornish talks about simple, low-tech and low-cost ways to take advantage of the body’s natural desire to heal itself.

Kelly McGonigal “How To Make Stress Your Friend”

https://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend#t-3776

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Stress. It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research suggests …